Have you ever heard a broken record? How it just goes and goes, repeating the same song over and over again, maybe not even the whole song and then you can’t get it out of your head? I have clients that do this with their own self-talk. Shoot, I even do this from time to time. It’s the voices in our head, OUR voices that tell us we are not enough, we are broken, we are damaged, we will never get out of this mess, we are not equipped.
Negative self-talk is TOXIC! We know this but we can’t stop doing it. It’s a habit. It needs to change in order to grow and cultivate a healthy mindset. How do we do this? By changing the way you treat yourself, the way you talk to yourself. Think about the things you say to yourself, the put downs, the berating, the verbal abuse, the way you beat yourself up because you are disappointed in yourself, the way you don’t give yourself grace for your mistakes. Think about this…would you say ANY of those things to your child, to your spouse, to your friends? NO WAY! So, why would you do it to you?
Because you probably have been doing it for years. Think about it, remember the broken record? Whatever is on repeat, whatever you tell yourself over and over is what sticks. Why not choose life-giving words, truths about yourself. If you start a new narrative, you form a new habit. If you form a healthier habit of positive self-talk you can handle much more in life. You can handle difficulties and trials that will come your way and you can treat yourself with grace, love and forgiveness much more freely. And not just to yourself, to anyone! You will no longer beat yourself up over imperfections. No one is perfect, no one this side of heaven anyway.
A coach will help you identify your self-talk and help you break those patterns. Help break that narrative for good. The best self-care you can give yourself is getting a coach.
Be blessed!
